This message was received by a follower of Road to Happiness. He and his wife lost their teenage daughter to suicide last year. Our thanks to them for having the courage to share their story, and our love to them now and always.
August is a tough month out of twelve tough ones without our precious girl. It was Adele’s birthday and a day that highlights the joys and disappointments, the laughter and sadness, and just the huge void that this horrible thing suicide brings to the survivors.
Although it is always there, the special anniversaries like birthdays, Christmas, other special days, really start to hit home the week before. It comes in like a slow rolling sea mist and before you know it you are wrapped in a cold blanket of melancholy, one that is just so hard to rise above.
My darling wife and I love and hate these days, love for the memories and hate for the missing chair at the table of our lives.
We survive because we do not blame and feel that the loss of one source of great love should not be the loss of another, although it will never be the same again! How could it be?
We talk about her constantly because if we did not the loss would not not be a loss. It does upset some people, but that is a negative we are prepared to accept, it is not intended to offend but for the main part their children are here and we do not resent their discussion of them, we really embrace it.
The miscomprehension that surrounds this tragedy is still so prevalent. That is the reason why what you [Ivo] are doing is so important. Judi was with friends talking the other day and suicide came up. A view was passed that this was in some form, a weakness of some sort. Judi informed the person of our loss and that the reasons for suicide were wide and varied. She is a brave Mother who just misses her girl and has a lot of questions and not one of them is about weakness!
Anyway Ivo and friends of Ivo that is enough tears on the keyboard for one day.
Judi and I appreciate your effort to educate and your great passion to help this most terrible of life’s losses carry meaning.
Love from us both and our Angel in her absence
Michael and Judi